Individuals going by means of their personal therapeutic relationship with meals at all times wish to know what different folks’s experiences had been like. Understandably. It may be useful to listen to what another person went by means of, and it may be inspiring to listen to how completely different they now really feel on the opposite facet.
However it will also be harmful in case you begin evaluating each little factor in your journey to another person’s.
Oh man, I’m experiencing this factor they didn’t. It should not be working for me.
Oh man they felt regular after a 2 months?!
So in case you can keep in mind that everybody’s beginning place, journey, and timeline is completely different, I’ll discuss what the phases of my Fuck It Food plan had been. The Grasp Fuck It Diet, if you’ll. The Fuck It Food plan that began the Fuck It Food plan. Okay.
Pre Fuck It Food plan: Plenty of diets. Plenty of physique dysmorphia. Orthorexia. Plenty of fixed serious about my weight. Some very devoted bouts of “intuitive consuming”, which had been very rules-based makes an attempt, and I used to be nonetheless very involved with the entire thing leading to making me skinny. I thought of myself “healed” many instances (trigger I used to be typically skinny and sort-of consuming what I wished.)
Section 1: EPIPHANY: “I’m so depressing, I’m bingeing, I’m irrationally obsessive about being skinny, and I feel I’ve physique dysmorphia.”
This was a BIG time of discovery. This was a BIG time of shifting my perspective on weight. It’s once I realized that weight was THE REASON I used to be unable to eat usually. My well being worry was secondary.
This was once I determined I wanted to permit myself to achieve weight. This was once I realized that the extra I ate the higher it will be. That is once I learn Well being at Each Measurement.
I used to be nonetheless afraid of gluten throughout this time, attempting to slowly add in meals that freaked me out. It final just a few months.
Section 2: AHHHHHHH!
This was once I began studying The Artist’s Approach, which lined up with, and continued to problem my relationship to, perfectionism and management.
This was once I began this very website you might be studying. This was once I felt like I NEED TO SHARE EVERYTHING I AM LEARNING.
I purchased larger garments. I now ate bread. I used to be nonetheless afraid of the whole lot however I used to be doing it, typically worrying I used to be going to smash the whole lot… however I used to be nonetheless doing it.
I might say this part lasted 1.5 years and I had moments of considering I may attempt to “eat wholesome”, which implies, feeling I ought to eat a sure method, for every week right here and there. Then I’d get up.
Physique picture was each actually onerous, and in addition very liberating.
I began puffing out my abdomen on objective to be like YEA MY STOMACH IS FILLED WITH FOOD, WHAT ARE YOU GONNA DO ABOUT IT, WORLD!?
My fears of meals and consuming largely went away through the course of this part.
Section 3: Power Work This part began with me doing EFT/Tapping on my residual fears about weight. The willingness to really feel what was scary to really feel earlier than, and processing previous shit. This shifted a LOT extra for me, and I barely considered my weight, and began consuming much more. Misplaced some weight unintentionally.
Section 4: Weight-Impartial Broke up with a boyfriend, gained some weight, and didn’t give a shit and determined to simply hold doing what I used to be doing and settle for the load if it was imagined to be a part of my life. This was huge.
This part might be the identical part I’m in now. Section 4. Healed with meals and a de-charged relationship with my weight.
And let me say, my weight has fluctuated. Not wildly, no, it’s nonetheless a lot extra steady, it doesn’t matter what I eat. Different issues appear to vary it, like seasons and feelings and hormones and … simply different issues. As a result of that’s life. Nothing stays the identical. We’re at all times in flux. Weight is simply one other a type of issues.
This final and longest part has been accompanied by numerous religious, emotional, and vitality work, which hasn’t been used for my relationship with meals, as a result of that’s been good, however extra the opposite components of my life. Mainly, now that my meals is regular, the query is, how can I reside extra? How can I apply The Fuck It Food plan to all areas in my life?
That’s the purpose guys. Get previous the meals stuff and into the life stuff.
Meals is only the start.
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